You can’t change people; you can only change yourself. How many times can you help someone by giving them advice? They continue to do the same thing over and over; maybe they’re just not ready to change.
Having worked since I was a teenager, I have met so many different people from many various industries and walks of life. Why are some people more successful and why are others broke all the time? Many people have a myriad of motivational reasons to push further to reach their goals. One thing I know for sure is that to become a better person either personally or in business, you must invest in yourself.
We are always growing and changing. I mean, look at your life now, were you a different person ten years ago? In the last ten years, did you take a class, start a new relationship or become a parent? These are changes most people experience. One day you’re a single person with all the freedom in the world, to go out and party, travel, get home whenever you please. Then, all of a sudden you’re a parent and boom! Things changed and now, it’s a different game in life.
As a business owner it’s not just opening up a store or getting a website and expect to have success overnight. Oh, it’s a lot of work. Now, you may be lucky to have started your business and clients started rolling in along with the money. However, in order to continue to grow you must take the time to invest in your business and in personal development.
One book I read in high school is “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. This book taught me to listen first, rather than talk about myself. People love to talk about themselves! Sometimes being a listener is all someone needs.
Now, when someone asks me for advice, I open-heartedly like to help out and hope my words will help him or her. I like to help by providing new ideas or direction, and hope it made their day so they can move forward.
I’ve spent hours on one person, trying to help her, even doing online research, providing the links so she can have a better mindset. Later, I realized that there was nothing else I can provide her. It’s really up to her. No matter how hard we try to help others, it’s up to them.
You can train people and show them what to do and even share a secret or two. If however, they cannot move forward, then just realize that you cannot change people. They have to take responsibility and motivate themselves by investing in their own personal development.